Managing Temper Tantrums

Managing Temper Tantrums

[EDIT – We are working on some new blog posts about emotional regulation and additional strategies for managing tantrums.  These will include an exploration of “Time In” as well as “Collaborative Problem Solving” – Stay tuned for updated information!

There are two kinds of temper tantrums:volcano

 

Manipulative:

This temper tantrum generally happens when children are attempting to gain something and are not successful (i.e. a toy from a peer, or the candy at the checkout counter).

 

 

How to manage a manipulative temper tantrum:

  • Use planned ignoring
  • Be consistent (if you’ve said no, stick with it)
  • Respond to the child when they stop crying
  • Praise any current, appropriate behaviour
  • Label feelings and use reflective listening (it looks like you’re sad, seems like you really want…, sounds like you are….)

 

Temperamental:

This temper tantrum occurs because of an underlying issue (i.e. overtired, uncomfortable, overstimulated, frustration)

 

How to manage a temperamental temper tantrum:

Before it happens:

  • Plan ahead
  • Reduce, or help child with frustrating activities
  • Avoid overstimulating

When it’s happening:

  • Use planned ignoring
  • Respond to the child when they stop crying
  • Praise any current, appropriate behaviour
  • Label feelings and use reflective listening.